Discovering A Girl's Soul With One Simple Question

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From the original article on November 16, 2009. Author: Chateau Heartiste.

I’ve written before on the practical importance of screening girls for their worthiness as long term sex partners and as a sly game tactic for making yourself seem choosier to a woman you are trying to pick up. I will now share with you a question I ask girls I have been dating for a few weeks that has served me well as a psychological dissection tool for determining a woman’s true personality and value system. This sort of knowledge is invaluable because it offers the time-pressed player a quick and dirty shortcut for teasing out overall compatibility with a woman. If you have the near-telepathic power to discover LTR incompatibility early on, then you will be in a position to withhold investing too much of your resources in a woman while still enjoying sexing her. An analogy would be to renting a beach home versus building your own beach home (minus insurance). If you knew ahead of time that a hurricane would hit one year from now and wash away to the sea all your hard work, would you bother building it? Or would you decide it’s better to just rent a beach home on a seasonal basis, or maybe look for a different beach to plunder?

This is the question I ask women:

“Imagine you could only go to one of two places for vacation. One place is Spain, where you will enjoy coffee at sidewalk cafes while people watching, lounging on beautiful beaches under a warm sun, visiting cultural landmarks and museums, and dancing and drinking away the night in exciting clubs. You ride up and down narrow streets on a scooter, eating the best food Spain has to offer and learning to speak a few words of Spanish. The other place is Antarctica (Or Patagonia or Tibet. Season to taste.), where you will be alone with the wonder and power of the natural world, your breath taken away by awesome sights and incredible wildlife, giant glaciers loom over you and the rocky beach is filled with penguins and elephant seals. You are at one with nature, your stress melting away, and you feel alive. Which vacation do you choose?”

How a girl answers this question will reveal a lot more about her than simply what she enjoys doing on vacation. Note that the trick is to emphasize the positive aspects of each vacation destination. You want her to make her choice in a happy frame of mind, free of negative associations. Pay attention, because her answer — and the follow-up questions you will ask, such as “How does that make you feel?” — will tell you a lot about how she approaches everything in life, including relationships and men.

Here is what I have learned:

If the girl answers “Spain”...

She is likely to be a status whore
She is likely to do hard recreational drugs, or think about doing them
She will be high maintenance
She likes to dress in sexy clothes
Her shoes are plentiful and nonfunctional
She is a raving liberal who loathes rules, timetables, and schedules
She is spontaneous
She is flaky
She is generous of spirit
She will go out of her way to make sure everyone is having fun
She is malleable
She is dependent
She is admiring
She is exasperating
She is a drama queen
She wants kids, eventually
She likes cats
She generally likes people
She is whimsical
She is a glib optimist
She frets
She cries
She will expect you to pay
She loves shopping, especially on your dime
She cares what kind of car you drive, the shoes you wear, the TV you own
She will love getting jewelry from you
She has a lot of superficial yenta screechaholic friends and gay boyfriends
She prefers making love whenever and wherever the mood strikes
She is pro-PDA
She is an attention whore
She is an incorrigible flirt
She gets turned on when you ignore her
She just wants a man who will understand her
She is more aroused by a man’s social status than by his charm or looks
She is extraverted
She hates hates hates betas
She loves badboys
She desperately, secretly wishes to submit to a dominant man, in all ways and at all times
She is more like her mother than her father
She was popular in high school
She lost her virginity later in life than you would think
She is not particularly adventurous, but she is silly fun
She is a party girl
She is afraid of food
She has an anal fixation
She huffs lurid gossip
She’ll keep you guessing
She is ultrafeminine
She might cheat and you will find out
She has an STD and will deny if you ask
She will heal or she will break your heart

If the girl answers “Antarctica”...

She won’t care very much what you do for a living or how much you make
She has smoked pot and prefers beer to cosmos
She will be low maintenance
She won’t dress sexily very often, and when she does it will seem unnatural on her
Her shoes are few and functional
She is a raving liberal who loves rules, timetables, and schedules
She is a planner
She is intractable
She is selfish at heart
She will go out of her way to make sure she is having fun
She is set in her ways
She is independent
She is circumspect
She is reliable
She is serenity now
She is often adamant about not wanting kids
She likes dogs
She generally hates people
She is grounded
She is a cynical fatalist
She compartmentalizes
She snarks
She will almost always pay half, without hesitation
She hates shopping, and has few yuppie possessions
She hates materialism and prefers items with “character” instead of “price tag”
She will love getting homemade cards from you
She has no gay boyfriends and the few friends she has are nerdy
She prefers making love in the bedroom
She is anti-PDA
She avoids drawing attention to herself
She doesn’t know how to flirt
She gets annoyed if she thinks you aren’t listening to her
She just wants a man who will respect her
She is more aroused by a man’s personality and looks than by his social status
She is introverted
She tolerates betas
She is wary of badboys
She hates controlling men, but will often wish a man would take the initiative and lead instead of her doing it all the time
She is more like her father than her mother
She was invisible in high school
She lost her virginity earlier in life than you would think
She is adventurous, but not silly fun
She is a spiritual girl
She loves eating
She has an oral fixation
She relishes moments of solitude and silence
She’ll keep you wondering if you can do better
She has some masculine personality traits
She might cheat and you won’t find out
She has an STD and will admit it if you ask
She will heal or she will break your soul

Analyze these two lists. Which girl would you prefer to date long term? Which girl do you believe best complements your lifestyle and values? As you can see, both types of women have their advantages and disadvantages. Which advantages are more important to you and which disadvantages you despise more than the others will depend on what kind of man you are and how well you can tolerate shortcomings in the women you choose to bless with the pleasure of your company.

It’s too bad you can’t find all the positives with few of the negatives of these two lists in the same girl. I have searched near and far for such an exquisite creature but my efforts to date have been fruitless. Or perhaps my standards are extraordinarily high. Either way, my standards aren’t budging, so the search continues... joyfully.

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